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Talking about love in action…

Good morning everyone! I hope you are off to a great Friday, in preparation for your weekend! I am headed to an appointment with my PCP this morning, so I ask for your love and prayers, that we can get my pain managed. I am about to literally go out of my fucking mind in all of this pain. Post op with my surgeon is Wednesday morning. That’s all I’ve got right now, which will hopefully be enough to resolve this.

I know a lot of you are struggling with something also. I send you all of my love and prayers. I believe that we have the power to lift one another up. We have the means to lighten someone else’s load, even just a little bit, don’t we? We have the resources to find ways to help others. We must stand united or fall to pieces divided.

I find myself avoiding the news at all costs. I feel like every time I watch it, it’s all about who I don’t want to be. Every time I see the pain and the loss and the struggle and  I watch Children being brutalized, I begin to feel helpless. Never hopeless, and seldom helpless, when I am though, I feel debilitated. I must be in action to do my work. My work is loving you and I sure do love you!

There will always be skeptics and may-sayers, who will tell me otherwise, and yet, the more I think about it, the more obvious and the more simple things become…I am love. My life’s work is love. My calling is to embrace, teach, model and accept love…to learn love and to love how I want to love and who I want to love. My calling, my work, my passion…spreading love to everyone. Sure, I would love to be an author and I will be. I am an artist. Those things are tools to spread my love. Once I simplified it…it became crystal clear to me…my work is love.

My view of and definition of and even my modeling of love has not always been loving. Being in love seemed reserved for romantic endeavors and lovers. Loving someone and saying so has always seemed to make people uncomfortable. How can you possibly love everyone? I don’t know. The more time that passes though, I love everyone more and more. I want people to know, more and more, that I love them. My dear friend shared a story with me, which I will paraphrase, which essentially said that you can love everyone with all of your heart!! I was SO fucking stoked the day I learned that! I thought that “All of my heart” could only really be used for one person. Another love delusion of my past. Being in love…what is being in love to you? So, as I sit here and look at my life, I have never loved wrong. I never loved the wrong people or wasted my love on them. Misguided does not invalidate all of the love I felt and tried to share. I am here simply because I never gave up on love.

My life’s calling is love. My work is love. Our Sanctuary is love. I hope that my love never made you feel uncomfortable. I mimicked what I saw and I did my best to make it beautiful and right and kind. I offered what I had, which was all of me at the time. I fell short. My love wasn’t always loving. I can promise you this though…the love was always in my heart for you. I don’t love my dogs in the same way that you love your dogs, do I? Does that mean that I love them less, because I don’t love them like you do? Does it mean that you love your dogs less if you do not love your dogs like I love mine? I think not. Truly, love is not really right or wrong. My expression of love and your expression of love may not be the same, and isn’t that fucking wonderful? Truly, love is infinite and loves potential is limitless. Diversity in love, as in life, makes the experience all the richer; don’t you agree?

So, if I tell you that I love you, I fucking mean it. I am really in a place of modeling love more than I speak love. Love is an action word and a verb. Love is action. Dr King speaks about this in a way that makes sense to me.

I took this excerpt from an article by Ruth Haley Barton, titled The Soul of leadership: Part 3 Love in Action

Where the Real Action Is

As it turns out, love is where the real action is, spiritually speaking. Love in action is doing what God calls us to do when he calls us to do it—no matter how afraid we are or how ill-equipped we feel. It is the willingness to move beyond being concerned primarily for our own safety and survival to the confidence that comes from knowing that our real life is hidden with Christ in God no matter what happens to our physical life.

Love in action is doing the right thing, at the right time, in the right Spirit, completely given over to a Power that is beyond our own—even, and perhaps most especially, when the risks are very great. This kind of action is impossible without being radically in touch with that perfect love which casts out fear. Such risky action is impossible until we stop hesitating and give in to the authority of an invisible God.[iii]

Real action is not about the absence of fear; it is the courage to look fear in face and master it through love. Dr. King (by his own admission) was often very much afraid but he chose courage which he defined as “the power of life to affirm itself in spite of life’s ambiguities.  This requires the exercise of a creative will that enables us to hew out a stone of hope from a mountain of despair.”[iv]

This kind of love-directed action is not about our natural preferences.  As King once said, “I don’t march because I like it.  I march because I must.” It is not about our own personal safety; after King went public with his convictions, he was never safe again from a human point of view. It is not about what seems humanly possible. It is about saying yes to the God with whom all things are possible and doing whatever we do in union with God. “Neither God nor man will individually bring the world’s salvation. Rather, both man and God, made one in a marvelous unity of purpose through an overflowing love as the free gift of Himself on the part of God and by perfect obedience and receptivityon the part of man, can transform the old into the new.”[v]

Love worth Celebrating

Dr. King’s commitment to the moral ethic of love enabled him to envision and articulate a way forward that involved meeting violence and oppression with nonviolent resistance, combatting real fear with profound courage, and confronting social evil with soul force.  This love is not to be confused with sentimental slop; it is creative, redemptive goodwill toward all people—including (and perhaps most especially) one’s enemies. In the depths of his being he knew that “returning hate for hate multiplies hate, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars.  Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”[vi]

And so he chose the way of love—love in action—and that made all the difference.

I love you and I hope you have a beautiful Friday! My challenge to each of us is to be love in action. Love with all you’ve got and share it with everyone! Love deeply and enjoy the swim. Love openly and be amazed at the love that comes back. Let’s go do some loving, shall we?

In closing, I ask again, that you send all of your love to my little friend Aiden this morning. Aiden, we are all surrounding you with love and healing light. I love you Aiden!

Care to join me in an Unconditional and inexhaustible love bath this morning?


Good morning everyone! Do you have your coffee ready? Awesome.,.now go ahead and set your coffee cups down, because we’ve big work to do together this morning! This morning I want us to spend some good time together to start our day off right. I envision that to be bathing in a sea of inexhaustible and unconditional love. Are you able to envision that with me? We are all going to take a nice morning swim in the sea this morning! How does that sound? Clothes on…clothes off…no matter, just jump in! Let’s take a nice and relaxing morning swim and meet back here in a little bit, okay? While you’re swimming, remember that you are literally being bathed in unconditional love…inexhaustible love…allow yourself to soak that all in and feel how that feels. Allow yourself to swim, to float, to immerse yourself and bathe yourself in love this morning. Feel the sun, gently warm your face and listen to the waves crashing…the tide going out and rolling back in…as you drench yourself in love! How are you feeling so far? I am feeling like I want to stay here for a bit longer, so let’s do that!

Everyone grab a raft and let’s head over here together. This little cove looks perfect for all of us! Wow…there are a lot of us here this morning, so please make room for your neighbors, okay? Cozy on in and let’s all come in as close as we can to one another, without touching rafts. We want some space around us, and to know that we aren’t alone, all at the same time this morning. How did it feel to swim and bathe and play in love this morning? How do you feel now?

Let’s all lie back on our rafts and close our eyes. Let the sun soak into your skin and fuel you for today’s journey. Allow the water below you to gently rock you into a relaxed and sleepy state. I will keep talking softly…you just relax and take what you need right now.

What was that like for you? For me, it’s like I don’t want to leave! I want to stay here in unconditional love and inexhaustible love…floating peacefully in my own space, and yet not entirely alone, here with you today, soaking up the sun and basking in love, love, love….

Hey, why don’t we take this with us today?  I mean not the rafts and the ocean…we can take the love though, can’t we? We can take each other in our hearts today, all day long. We can bathe in love all day long AND we can bathe others in our unconditional and inexhaustible love, all day long! We can take this with us! Teachers In the movie “The Secret”always say to imagine the feeling of the wish fulfilled. The law of attraction says that we attract what we focus our energy and intention on. I know that’s right, don’t you? What is better to attract than love? Unconditional and inexhaustible love, love, love…yes please!

As we leave the healing room this morning, how are you going to share this feeling with others today? How are you going to keep these love waves rolling in? You can take this with you, you know? You can pay it forward. You can hold a door for someone. Remember the day I challenged you to buy two of whatever you’re buying for yourself, and gift the other to someone else? You can do that today…better yet, you can do that every day. Imagine how that small gesture alone will change our world? You can let someone in, who is trying to cut you off in traffic…I know. I know. Just try it. It feels better than the escalated blood pressure you get otherwise. Just trust me on this one. Road rage kills. What does road love do? Wave to pepole, even if you don’t drive a Jeep. I dare you! Wave and smile with no expectation. What would Road Love look like to you? Replace road rage with road love, and let me know how that feels, oaky? What about taking an intentioned moment to send someone some love who is struggling? Just stop what you are doing and envision them for a moment…hold them close to you and tell them that you see them and that you love them, no matter what. With all of your intention, send all of your love to them. Send so much that you feel them feel it. That’s how we are going to do it today, oaky? We are going to grab a coffee refill and we are on fire! We are going to spend this day, in as many ways as we can, loving ourselves and the people we encounter today, so that we can all feel it. I send all of my love to you this morning and ask you to pass it on to everyone you meet today. Who is going to heal our world? We are! We are the change we wish to see in our world. I want love and so I am headed out there to love! I really hope you will join me!